COUPLE'S CONNECT

Just under half of the marriages in South Africa do not last 10 years — New research by Statistics South Africa (Stats SA) said that, in 2016, about 51% of married women had filed for divorce, with married men accounting for 34,2% of divorces.

My concern with the above is the ripple effect it has on individuals, families, kids and future generations to come.

Many stay in unhappy marriages because of commitment etc, however this does not create a happy space and leaves each individual feeling drained. A happy home equals a happy life.

Kids learn about relationship by observing, and gain limiting beliefs and programming from this observation.

This isn’t anyone’s fault, we are all doing the best we can with the knowledge we have and what we learnt from generation before us. Programing that sits in the unconscious mind cannot be your fault, however, it can be your responsibility to become aware, understand and heal on a deeper level.

We can learn a different way and spread positive vibes if we can take responsibility and understand that most of us where not given the tools to get over life challenges.  

Intimate relationships give us the opportunity to do just that, to heal and grow together.

Right now, if you are pushing each other’s buttons, it is because you are in defense mode and in what I call the “mirror phase” of relationships. Your partner is serving you and playing a role that is needed for your own self growth. 

I ask that instead of resisting, step out of your comfort zone and work together to learn how this is manifesting and how you can heal together and possibly create an opportunity to reignite those original feelings of love, trust and hope.